Тіло і розум або як зробити, щоб тебе помітили

Чудова лекція Amy Cuddy про вплив мови тіла на те, як нас сприймають і як ми самі себе сприймаємо.

У вас буває, що після важливої розмови чи екзамену стоячи під душем ви вигадуєте мільйон дотепний, логічних і взагалі чудових відповідей, але вже запізно. Виявляється у цього явища є своя назва l’esprit d’escalier — the spirit of the stairs.

Eighteenth-century French philosopher and writer Denis Diderot was at a dinner party, engaged in debate over a topic that he knew well. But perhaps he wasn’t himself on that evening — a bit self-conscious, distracted, worried about looking foolish. When challenged on some point, Diderot found himself at a loss for words, incapable of cobbling together a clever response. Soon after, he left the party.

Once outside, on his way down the staircase, Diderot continued to replay that humiliating moment in his mind, searching in vain for the perfect retort. Just as he reached the bottom of the stairs, he found it. Should he turn around, walk back up the stairs, and return to the party to deliver his witty comeback? Of course not. It was too late. The moment — and, with it, the opportunity — had passed. Regret washed over him. If only he’d had the presence of mind to find those words when he needed them.

Reflecting on this experience in 1773, Diderot wrote, “A sensitive man, such as myself, overwhelmed by the argument leveled against him, becomes confused and can only think clearly again [when he reaches] the bottom of the stairs.”

And so he coined the phrase l’esprit d’escalier — the spirit of the stairs, or staircase wit. In Yiddish it’s trepverter. Germans call it treppenwitz. It’s been called elevator wit [or] afterwit. But the idea is the same — it’s the incisive remark you come up with too late. It’s the hindered comeback. The orphaned retort. And it carries with it a sense of regret, disappointment, humiliation. We all want a do-over. But we’ll never get one.

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2 thoughts on “Тіло і розум або як зробити, щоб тебе помітили

  1. Ще б знати, як з цим жити. Бо я часто перед сном прокручую все, що було за день. І буває, що думки про те, що можна було б зробити або сказати інакше, не дають мені спати…

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